How Embarrasing?

[gabsmom123]

Yesterday while at church my daughter's Godfather walks up to me and ask me Are you pregnant again. I have been trying to lose some weight since I had the baby and she is now 4 months old. I pretty much lost all of the weight after I had her and then for some reason I picked it back up I think it could be my IUD I was so embarrased and upset. I told my husband and he was like maybe he should have come to me first before he ask you that. How would you feel if this happen to you.

[DeBora4BobbyL]

I would have asked him if this was his way of asking me if I needed to go on a diet. lol Then it would have been he that would have been embarrassed. lol

[dallasalice1]

I also would have turned the tables & just said no...... just overweight & hoped he would squirm.......lol!

Or.........is this your IMPOLITE way of telling me I am "Big".

[DeBora4BobbyL]

That would be too funny!

[barbszy]

That was NOT COOL of him! That is one of those things that guys can be truly clueless about :mad:

[gabsmom123]

Yes, I know right. I think that I was so upset that I could not really think of anything to say. I mean I am already upset that I am a little overweight right now, but it is like everyone is jumping down my throat about it because I was small. It's like no one recognizes that I just had a little girl mind you that is only 4 months. It makes me feel really down and depressed sometimes.

[DeBora4BobbyL]

Gabsmom, I know it is easy for me to say, but don't worry about it. I know many horrible, ugly, people who are physically beautiful and skinny and have a figure to die for! But, I know many people who are physically obese whom I admire and respect. We all have imperfections whether they are physical, emotionaly, personality, or whatever, So, work on what you can in life and respect yourself. You seem to me to be a nice and intellegent person. I bet your little baby thinks you rock! Sorry to sound so preachy.

[barbszy]

I think DeBora has said it all!!!

[gabsmom123]

Thanks so much Debora. I appreciate you saying that and it is really true. My husband and I just starting a new Christian parenting website which is www.mychristianparenting.com if you ladies would like to check it out. And I would have to say as so many have said before me "I am too blessed to be stressed" and I am no longer going to let the enemy steal my joy.

[tater03]

My father in law just did this at a funeral. He patted thas womens stomach and asked when she was due. Problem was she was not pregnant and not even had been recently pregnant. Very uncomfortable for all of us to say the least. She took it very well and just said "no, I wish that was my problem with this stomach."

[vicki2]

Argggh ...it isn't always men tho who make this silly assumption! I've overheard women do it and it's just as awful. I'm at a point where I never mention anyone's weight even if I know they're on a diet and looking thinner. You just never know what the feelings are.

[ajrsmom]

A reply that I have used is " As a matter of fact, I am not ...BUT... I do have a beautiful, healthy baby girl because of my body and I wouldn't trade my body shape for my baby at any time.

I also added that my husband loves me just the way I am and to me, that is the only thing that matters.

I didn't get loud or obnoxious when I said this, I said it with confidence and a ****y smile on my face. ;)

And it shut her up to the point where she told me she was sorry and that I was a wonderful Mother for answering that way.


I know how you feel because I gained back weight that I had lost after having my daughter. I get so down on myself but I do look at my kids and know that they grew happy and healthy inside of me. :)

Enjoy your little one!

Tami

[Janet]

I always laugh things off like that, and would probably say..you know this Young'un...came out kicking and screaming..and the old place is still recovering. :D

Men can be such dopes!!!

Dont let it get you down..you are doing the most important job now..raising your baby.

Hugs, Janet

[LifeStar]

I think it was Dave BArry who, in a list of things he has learned over the years, said that he has learned to never ask a woman if she's pregnant unless you actually see a baby emerging from her body. All men should take that advice to heart.

The very same thing happened to me.. A stranger asked me when I was due.. I smiled, patted my belly and said, Oh there's no baby here.. I'm just fat. I thought she'd curl up and die...

[ajrsmom]

I think it was Dave BArry who, in a list of things he has learned over the years, said that he has learned to never ask a woman if she's pregnant unless you actually see a baby emerging from her body. All men should take that advice to heart.

The very same thing happened to me.. A stranger asked me when I was due.. I smiled, patted my belly and said, Oh there's no baby here.. I'm just fat. I thought she'd curl up and die...


ROFL!!! I love both of these quotes!!

[katharina]

The very same thing happened to me.. A stranger asked me when I was due.. I smiled, patted my belly and said, Oh there's no baby here.. I'm just fat. I thought she'd curl up and die...

This is absolutely priceless! People so often assume things that turn
out to be very embarrassing. Makes ya wonder why they make the
choice to say something in the first place! :)